The Vigilant Protector: Gateway to Trust & Safety

Your body stays on alert.

Even when nothing is obviously wrong, something inside remains braced, scanning for what could go wrong, what needs attention, or what might be coming next.

Stillness can feel risky, like you might disappear. Staying “on” is how your body confirms it exists.

At times, you may seek intensity through passion, sex, drama, or adrenaline, because high charge gives clear feedback that you’re here, engaged, and real, while quieter states can feel vague or untrackable.

Your body is seeking contact (which sometimes looks like drama)

You Might Notice

• Feeling tense, braced, or jumpy throughout the day
• Difficulty resting, even when you want to
• Constantly scanning for what needs to be done
• You may speak quickly, explain often, or feel like you’re tracking the other person while talking

• Avoiding stillness or softness
• Using stimulation or sexual charge to stay engaged and awake

In relationship, you may feel watchful instead of settled.
You may want closeness, yet struggle to fully relax into it.

Your First Key to Softening This Posture

Micro-Practice

1️⃣ Sit or stand comfortably. Don’t try to relax.
2️⃣ Notice one very small sensation: temperature, pressure, or contact: feet on the floor, clothes on your skin.
3️⃣ Stay with it for three slow breaths.
4️⃣ Stop.

Tracking a small, neutral sensation gives your body proof that you’re herewithout needing intensity or vigilance.

The Path Forward

In this posture, the body stays lifted and ready.
The chest slightly expanded or held.
Shoulders hovering.
Neck tense.
Eyes scanning.
Breath high and quick.

As this posture begins to soften, safety becomes available without effort.

The shoulders drop.
The chest releases.
The neck lengthens.
Breath settles lower.

Voice settles into its natural rhythm.

The shift for you is from:

staying safe by staying on guard

to

being here without bracing.