The Problem Solver: Gateway to Trust & Rest

What’s Happening

You step in because it feels like someone has to.

Your attention naturally moves toward what needs handling next: organizing, anticipating, solving, carrying, often before anyone asks.

Your body stays subtly forward and engaged, as if ready to catch what might fall.

Handling feels safer than waiting.

Doing feels safer than trusting.

Talking feels safer than silence.

Somewhere inside is the fear:
If I stop holding this, everything will collapse and I’ll be alone with the consequences.

So your body keeps carrying, you keep solving, even when you’re tired.

What’s Happening

• Taking responsibility for what isn’t yours
• Difficulty receiving support
• Feeling exhausted but still pushing forward
• Silence feeling uncomfortable
• A tendency to keep talking or ruminating when slowing down feels vulnerable

In relationship, you may feel relied upon yet unsupported. You may be needed, but not held.

Your First Key to Softening This Posture

Micro-Practice: Put One Thing Down

1️⃣ Place one hand on your chest or upper belly.
2️⃣ On the exhale, say quietly: “This moment can hold itself.”
3️⃣ Let your shoulders drop back just a little.
4️⃣ Pause. Let the body register the words.

The body hears these words and lets something drop.

The Path Forward

In this posture, the body leans forward.
The upper back tightens.
The chest stays engaged.
Attention remains on what must be handled next.

As this posture softens, silence becomes easier to stay with.

The spine stacks.
The shoulders ease back.
Breath moves without urgency.

The body notices:
support is still here, even without managing it.

The shift for you is from:
carrying to prevent collapse

to

receiving support while at rest.